Help me! I'm too lazy for my boyfriend!?

My boyfriend expects me to be a 'feminine girl' (as he puts it) and keep the house squeaky clean and fresh smelling all the time (not totally unreasonable), love to redecorate and cook dinner every night (and simple dinners are out of the question. He's an unnecessarily picky eater). I'm 19 and he's 22. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and we've lived together for almost two of those years with my father. We have an 18 month old daughter. It's not that i don't feel like i SHOULD keep the place clean but it's not something I was brought up doing so it's not like i have it already worked into my daily life. i can't even remember what my mother was like as a wife when she lived here and we haven't lived together for many years (she moved to another country) so she has never given me that kind of guidance. Also my boyfriends mother was like SUPERMOM. She cooked breakfast every morning, had dinner waiting every evening (she's a professional chef so I guess it was delicious) and kept the house spotless (according to him) with a job and three kids. So naturally my bf expects the same from me. I'm a young mom, I work 2 days a week and I'm a full time student pursuing my bachelors in biology. My bf works full time and has his own side business fixing computers. I want to make him happy and I have improved A LOT since we started living together but I'm still not 'up to his standard'. I try to cook as often as I can when I have the supplies (I don't make enough money to supply groceries every week so I have to wait on my father or him to supply the funds which can take a while especially since my dad gets paid monthly) and when the dishes are clean (I refuse to wash dishes, it's the only thing I just won't do so I can't complain when it takes him or my dad weeks to wash them) otherwise I have to wash pots and utensils to cook, plates for everyone to eat from, etc. but there is always something wrong. he always wants me to make things the way his mother made them and he won't eat it any other way. He likes his food elaborate with lots of herbs and extra fixin's. I made curry chicken and rice one night and he wouldn't eat it because it didn't have any potatoes or carrots. Well he ate some of it but he made it obvious that he didn't like it and he;s had a lot better. But back to the laziness issue. I want to have a clean house as well but I'm the only woman living here and this house has 4 bathrooms, 3 bedrooms, a foyer, a living room, a family room, a billiard room (we're not rich, we just have a pool table), a dining room, a good sized kitchen and a breakfast nook. My dad is a pack rat, my bf has computers and computer parts all over the place!!! It's just too much for me to keep clean on my own all the time especially with my schedule, not to mention I do my bf's laundry, mine and my daughter's every week. Thank God we have a washer and dryer! I clean my room once or twice a week and every other room once its gotten too dirty. My problem may be that i like to sleep. I am always late because when I wake up in the morning I'm still really tired and on the weekend when i have no work or class I always end up taking a nap during the day. Sometimes i have to make up excuses not to go to work because I'm just too tired. I don't know if i have a sleep disorder or something. He just thinks I'm lazy because he can work all week and some nights not even sleep and it doesn't bother him. he'll rarely do any cleaning on his own (and I'm talking once a year) and if I'm there he won't want to do anything for our daughter. His father was never around so he feels like i should be able to do everything on my own. He gets mad if my daughter's bottles aren't washed, if he thinks she's hungry and I haven't fed her yet or if i don't bathe her when she comes home from school (i let this slide sometimes because they give her a bath in school and sometimes when we come home it's late or she's sleeping). He'll get mad if i don't do those things or clean and he may do them but he'll be looking at me the whole time like "What kind of woman are you?" That's what hurts the most. I remember he told me I was a bad mother when my daughter was young because it was painful to breastfeed her so i wanted to buy a breast pump. Don't tell me what an a**hole my bf is, believe me I know but i love him anyway. Plus, I feel I'll end up having this cleanliness issue with any future bfs I live with. I don't know any other girl who doesn't like to clean so that bothers me too. I've thought of hiring a maid to come in like once I week but I'm sure that money would be better spent elsewhere and I don't want my bf (or anyone else) to think I'm lazy and I can't do it all. This issue has affected how